How to Be Bold and Confident

The Number One Fear

If I were to ask you, "What is the single greatest fear of a person today," I would imagine that there would be a lot of different answers. There would be a good majority that would answer, "Death." Then, there would be others that would say something along the lines of "not being loved" or "not being liked in society." You would also have to throw in all of those random fears for those who fear so many things it gets almost ridiculous. You know, those people who might be afraid of milk. Or bus boy rags that are used to wide off tables after someone has left the restaurant. All of these are justifiable answers (well, most of them), but none of them are the number one fear of people today.

Drum Roll, Please

The number one fear of people today is...

Public Speaking.

Yes, that is correct. Public speaking. Death is a solid number two. That means that, as a majority, the world would rather die than to speak in front of people. Why is this? The human mind comes up with a lot of crazy ideas. It tries to process every possible situation that could occur. The funny thing is that a lot of these scenarios that the brain produces focus on the negative, or how things could go wrong. The mind produces a good amount more of bad scenarios than good scenarios, when it comes to things we fear.

The Struggle

With all of that being said, one of the hardest things to do is overcome your fear. In this case, the fear of public speaking is the hardest to overcome. You might be asking, "How do I overcome the fear of public speaking?" There are different ways of doing this, but the main cure to fear of public speaking centres on one thing: confidence. Confidence is the main struggle that a lot of people have that causes us to fear speaking in front of people. Notice, I did not say self-esteem. I realize that self-esteem and confidence might want to go hand-in-hand here, but there are a lot of people with great self-esteem that still get flustered whenever they get up in front of people.

The Cure

Now, there are a couple of things that can aid you in your quest of "how to be bold and confident." Let me help you get started by showing you 3 simple things to get you going.

1. Know what you're talking about. If you don't know what you're talking about, how can you be confident in what you're saying? One thing to learn is that, if you believe it, you can be confident in telling others about it.

2. Get the right mindset. Confidence has a lot to do with the mind. The right mindset takes a lot of preparation and concentration for some people. Have that mindset where, no matter what happens, you will do your best and knock them out. This might seem hard to do, but, most of the time, "psyching yourself out" proves to be a solid way to start. Once you start and get some practice in whatever it is you're trying to do, you will get more and more comfortable speaking.

3. Apply. You have to be able to take what you know and apply it. Whether you practice first to get warmed up to bigger things or you want to "knock 'em dead" with the first attempt, take what you learn and apply it. It might take a little bit of time to actually "see" results. I put see in quotes there to bring up a point. You might look at yourself from the inside-out and think that you are failing miserably, but that is not always the case for those who see you from the outside. People may not "catch" that you're nervous if you know what you're talking about and have the right mindset.

One More Thing

There are other ways of how to become bold and confident that are different than the mental aspect. People find many different ways to be bold. Some people get tattoos. Others put it on their vehicles. But one of the best ways to be bold is to wear clothes of what you believe. Clothing has turned into one of the biggest advertising schemes in the world. It is a great resource, and it should not go to waste.

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